Emotional Intelligence 101: Add EQ to IQ for success and happiness!

Know what I want?

Do you know what I want? 

I want you to listen to me.

I want you to follow my lead.

I want you to buy into the concept enough to promote it to others.

OUR Feelings ARE THE KEY to intelligent, aware, and moderated behaviours.

Those of us who know, become responsible for the rest.

some things aren’t fair, but That-Is-How-It-Is.

I want us to join forces together, to help spread the word.  The word of Love, and care, and concern for others. 

I want US to actively educate others.

The more Emotionally Intelligent people are, the more likely they are to be trustworthy, kind, and safe.

Aware people make better decisions.

- add your name if you agree with this wisdom -

with my love,
- matt

it doesn’t take many “resources” to educate others… mostly just our Time, enthusiasm, and some grasp of the subject.  There are so many simple, inexpensive and incredibly powerful ways to interact with others nowadays, it’s only our creativity and our self-limiting beliefs that keep us small.

us

 

We Continuously Learn, Learn, Learn!

We are constantly in, what we call, “Learning Mode”, where we are open to new ideas, concepts and experiences.

“Education is our passport to the future, for tomorrow belongs to the people who prepare for it today."

    - Malcolm X

“Our progress as a nation can be no swifter than our progress in education."

    - John F. Kennedy

“One can succeed at almost anything for which he has enthusiasm."

    - Charles Schwab

“Genius without education is like silver left in the mine."

- Benjamin Franklin

Emotional Intelligence for all!

I just learned that over 80% of all prisoners in CA were once foster kids.  80%, damn !!
… and I believe that some 50-70% of all crimes could be considered to be Emotion-based (drugs, violence, theft, etc.).

Let’s:
    Educate prisoners
    Educate foster kids
    Educate parents and single moms
    Educate couples - straight and gay
    Educate youth
    Educate the elderly

make them aware, show them that there is another way to live.
    a better way.  a way that works AND feels good, at the same time.  And all it takes it to learn more about Emotional Intelligence!

Let’s let 'em know that they have more Choices, emotionally, than they ever dreamed possible.

Let’s give 'em the GOOD NEWS that they can choose how to be, how to feel, how to live their lives!

Love with your whole heart!

It’s better to love and feel ALL the emotions rather than not love for fear of the loss.

- NS

You can't really feel the highs, if you can't or won't feel the lows.
You're living only half an existence.

        - Cheryl Montgomery-Nolan

Fall seven times; stand up eight.

- unknown

Advanced Relationship Training

Ok, so this weekend, we’re teaching the 5th in our year-long, 6-weekend series on Advanced Relationship Trainings (ART class).

The subjects are:

• Leadership (quiz)
• What Story are you Living? 
• Personal Commitment

Among other things, we’ll all be doing a 15-minute presentation, to be encouraged and critiqued by the group.  We’re striving to become the most amazing people we can, so here goes…

p.s. – I love teaching and I love being a student, too.  We define a good instructor as 70% student/30% teacher.

Happiness is up to Me

Giving is all about me.

Loving is all about me.

Being nice is all about me.

Being a good guy is all about me.

it’s all all about me.

I do good things, and I’m nice to people, and I give, and I’m trying to change the world – why? - ‘cause it’s fun.  and it feels good.  and it works, for me.

period.

Happiness is about Deciding

know why people have so much fun when they're at a party or bar and/or drinkin'?
    because they decide to. 

they make a group decision, and personal decisions, to HAVE FUN, so they do.
    period.  yes, the alcohol plays a factor in it, but still,
    they just Decide to have fun... so they do.

they Decide to raise their energy, talk louder, move their body, tell stupid jokes, etc.
    we can do that same thing, and get into that same space, wherever and whenever we Decide to. We can dance, and laugh, and be silly, just ‘cause.

pretty cool, ey?!?

we can control our feelings, and our energy.  (one of the few things we can control, and really, the only thing we really Need to control – ourselves.)

Happiness is about Facing ourselves

"I've finally come to understand that whatever happens, all those stumbling blocks, all these problems, have nothing to do with real happiness. Happiness is facing yourself and learning to love what you see, flaws and all. It's taking enjoyment just from the process of being human."

      - Kelsey Grammar

I keep saying that “it’s all about us”.  If we cannot be happy with ourselves, it doesn’t really matter what’s happening outside of us.

 

"It’s not easy to find happiness within ourselves and it’s impossible to find it elsewhere."

    - Agnes Rippler

Happiness is about Understanding Fears our own and others, too.

Sometimes,

understanding their fears

helps me

understand and accept their actions,

as well as their pain.

 

and Sometimes,

understanding their fears

helps me

to understand, and accept, and conquer, my own.

Emotional Intelligence is only a thought away.

"It takes six seconds to manage anger.
It takes six seconds to create compassion.
It takes six seconds to change the world."

Most of all, we want you to know that emotional intelligence is right there inside you -- everyone has it, and everyone can learn to use it more effectively. While we deliver powerful in-depth trainings and approaches to EI development, the tools you really need are already inside you -- and if you'll commit just a moment now and then to practice, six seconds at a time, you'll enhance the quality of your relationships with yourself and others.”