Emotional Intelligence 101: Get a Clue - Get a Grip - Get a Life!

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Animator vs Animation

Check out this movie... just for fun... very clever! 
Enjoy.  - Matt

The Animator vs. his Animation
http://alanbecker.deviantart.com/art/Animator-vs-Animation-34244097

Animator vs. Animation by *alanbecker on deviantART

No More Wars (2)

"War" is a mighty strong word... but it's a strong message, too.

Ok, we're going to war.  We wage a:
war against Shoulds.
war against perfection.
war against harshness, and cruelty, and unnecessary pain.
war against emotional ignorance and cluelessness.
war against separateness and isolation and making enemies.
war against aloneness and loneliness.
war against rage, replaced with good clean anger.
war against depression, allowing the release of energy that free us to live and breathe.

war against guilt: teach me, but don't trash my life.
war against shame: stand tall and be counted, for you are one of God's children.
war against molest and abuse: OPEN YOUR EYES and see the horror and devastation of your uncaring actions.

war against hunger: in a land of plenty.
war against stupidity: where we do NOT support our elected leaders.
war against cruelty: disguised as ignorance.
war against brutality: in any form.

We're marching for Peace.
we want peaceful borders.
we want our leaders to TALK and keep TALKin' until you guys work it out so that everyone wins -- NO MORE WARS, EVER!!!

we want LOVE to be the governing body.  the focus.  the goal.  the intent.  the glue.
we want HAPPY and FUN to be good things, not an annoyance or irritation.

we want Therapy and Personal Growth and Coaching and Emotional Intelligence to be honored and respected for the Amazing changes we are making for, and to, the world -- changing hearts, one person or a small group at a time.

we want our government officials to be:
Honest,
Open
Sane
NOT money-focussed
NOT Good-ole'-boy clichish
NOT based on personal gain.

We war against emotional pain, by bringing awareness to the masses, and we fight for peace, and joy, and love, in who we are and all that we do.

march on...

No More Wars (1)

Free Yourself from Emotional Prison!

(see Mr. Einstein's quote that I posted yesterday.)
he said:

"Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty."

it's not a war, it's a liberation.
it's not a fight, it's a release.
it's not killing, it's growing.
it's not taking over, it's letting go.

it's not about forcing, it's about allowing.

Free yourself, first.

No More Wars

-There will never be another world war -- ever!

In fact, I believe wars will decline in the future, both in severity and in number.

I believe that we, as a planet, are slowly, but surely, "Getting It", and I'm very happy about that!

I have hope for the future.  I believe we are on the right path toward becoming a more Feeling-Friendly world.

The shift will be profound, and it's comin'. "It's only a Thought away."

Show me the way

Show me the way and I will not stray.

What's UP?

Lovers of the English language might enjoy this.....
There is a two-letter word that perhaps has more meanings than any other two-letter word, and that is "UP."

It's easy to understand UP, meaning toward the sky or at the top of the list, but when we awaken in the morning, why do we wake UP?
At a meeting, why does a topic come UP? Why do we speak UP and why are the officers UP for election and why is it UP to the secretary to write UP a report?
We call UP our friends And we use it to brighten UP a room, polish UP the silver, we warm UP the leftovers and clean UP the kitchen. We lock UP the house and some guys fix UP the old car.
At other times the little word has real special meaning. People stir UP trouble, line UP for tickets, work UP an appetite, and think UP excuses.
To be dressed is one thing but to be dressed UP is special. And this UP is confusing:
A drain must be opened UP because it is stopped UP.
We open UP a store in the morning but we close it UP at night. We seem to be pretty mixed UP about UP!
To be knowledgeable about the proper uses of UP, look the word UP in the dictionary. In a desk-sized dictionary, it takes UP almost 1/4th of the page and can add UP to about thirty definitions .
If you are UP to it, you might try building UP a list of the many ways UP is used. It will take UP a lot of your time, but if you don't give UP, you may wind UP with a hundred or more.
When it threatens to rain, we say it is clouding UP. When the sun comes out we say it is clearing UP. When it rains, it wets UP the earth.
When it doesn't rain for awhile, things dry UP.
One could go on and on, but I'll wrap it UP,
for now my time is UP, so.............
Time to shut UP.....!
Oh...one more thing:
What is the first thing you do in the morning & the last thing you do at night? -------
- - - - U - - - - P - - !!

Living Out Loud

1. Everyone's complaining about the heat in California. even people only 30 miles away from the coast. Our friends in Sacramento and Fresno have lived in over 100 degree heat for almost a month now. I'll trade you. I've only taken off my sweatshirt for a few short periods in the last week or so, and right now I have my little heater on full blast.

2. Real estate is one of the keys to financial independence, huh?
(we found out yesterday that our credit scores, which were pretty bad, are looking way much better -- yahoo -- credit abounds!!)

5. Got another Big job... in Seattle. got fired from 2 (which was good, but sad). that leaves 9 current jobs -- 2 state agencies (CDF & CIWMB) one working for a waste tire hauler in Portland, a landscaper, the biggest insurance agency in Sac, a non-profit agency in Marin that helps the handicapped and sickly with in-home support services, E*TRADE, Roach Bros. Logging, the CA Speech-Language-Hearing Association, and California Closets, who has 100 franchises around the world, some doing up to $3M/mo. in custom closets. whoa.

6. They opened the bridge to traffic yesterday after 3 years of construction, both lanes, both sides! They re-did the bridge pavement, actually Ground off the bumps, then repaved the streets on both sides...and they did a Beautiful job. As you drive across it, it changes color, so it looks like there's gonna be a bumps... and there used to be a bumps... but there ain't no bumps no mo. it's perfectly flat. very cool. and... they re-paved the last 4 miles of highway 20 and again, it's beautiful (best paving job I've ever seen). After a hard night of driving and napping and driving some more, those last 4 miles into town are now a real joy to ride. In my car, I don't even have to touch the gas but once in the entire 4 mile stretch... I just love that feeling... closest I get to Flying!

7. they also opened the miniature golf course yesterday, but I cannot possibly see how they are going to have enough business to make it profitable. is mini-golf big among aging tourists? Perhaps a senior skate-board park will be next.

8. I've been playing R-ball like a maniac lately. I have officially gone from a C player to a B player (in my mind, anyway). Feels great. going again in an hour and a half. played yesterday with Bruce v. Rusty and Dick (2-2) and with Dick v. Rusty and Flurry (2-1). didn't play as great yesterday (or we woulda won more), but the 2-3 weeks proceeding that, I was hot. beat Kurt twice (doubles, but still). beat Danny in triples, never done that before. really proud of my play and having a really fun time doing it.

it's early Sunday morning. it's nice sometimes, to let my mind go for awhile and see what comes out. well, here it is.

10. We're going to Washington, D.C.! My brother Scott made Lance Armstrong's cross-country cancer-awareness team. See www.TourOfHope.org and http://www.geoffgourley.com/ScottPerelstein/ They're riding from San Diego to Atlanta, then up to D.C. in 9 days. We're gonna go to the finish line at the capitol, with my brother and Lance, and the media, and my parents, and my bro's wife and 2 boys (our one-year old nephew, Finn we haven't even met yet), her parents and brother's family, and make a real Party out of it! So glad to take Rachel and Paula for their first trip to D.C. (I used to live near there in northern VA), and I'm gonna try to arrange to see some of my old high school buds while we're there!

10. I don't talk that much about the 'other side' of my life. I guess I will someday. Thing is, I am changing lives, left and right. We can take someone who's been in therapy for years and even hospitalized, and help them become a healthy, functioning, Happy person. We've done it many times. It doesn't take that long, it's incredibly inexpensive, the lessons are profound, and simple, and totally free, it makes for great relationships, loving families and happy campers, and it works like nothing else I've ever seen or experienced. Guess I should tell somebody about it, ey?

11. I will. My mission is to tell the world about the lessons I have learned. this is why I was put here on this earth. tho I've been overweight my entire life, tho I have another more-than-full-time job(s), tho I still run the Euc biz (5 orders last week, our record! 1 was for pictures in NY, NY that will be used by Target for their private labelling of bath products!), tho I still manage to spend good, quality, laughing time with Rachel (she is doing Wonderfully, breaking up in laughter everyday, just got her belly-button pierced - yikes - but her energy is sooo nice now) (oh, and know how she got there? We taught her what we teach in class. ha, it works)) and tho Paula and I are not as close as we teach (we're still workin' on it, tho), we have been able to come up with processes that will change people's lives, for good. it's fun, and scary, and energizing, to be so clear about my Purpose... but it sure gets me out of bed in the morning (last night, 6 hours sleep -- my previous high was 5 in the last 2 weeks).

12. yes, I'm babbling. Take it as a HUGE compliment ('cause it is) that I am feeling safe enough with you to share all this.

13. better get back to work. my new Seattle job is expecting a submittal tomorrow morning. so now it's time to produce. If I work solid for an hour, and make some real progress, I can go to R-ball at 9, guilt-free. Flurry said he and Steve would be there.

14. oh, and we broke ground on our Garage footings!! the backhoe dude came (Monte) and dug the trenches around the perimeter (only $400). we're cleaning them out by hand -- getting the roots that stick out and cleaning out the holes to get ready for building forms. (he dug the trenches too wide, and too deep (24x24), so we should have the strongest, 2-story garage on the coast!)

nice chattin' with you.
- Matt

praise for mcp

Love Notes from our ND class - in Fresno, CA 5/15/05

"YOU R AWESOME!"
- John

"Matt,
You are such a treasure.  I am soooo thrilled that you're in my life.
with love always."
- Sharon

"Matt,
You continue to help me grow. The gift of having you (and Paula and New Directions) in my life is more valued than I can convey. You're wonderful and I love you (so much that I'm trying to bring my whole wonderful dysfunctional family to meet you  ;-)
Take care of you Matt -- your ability to connect and direct and your joy in living is amazing."
- Justine

"Matt,
Great job for the weekend."
- Lilla

"You're Awesome!  Great!  Wisdom to you ;-)
and thank you once again (for the 10th time)
Love ya,
- John
p.s. - say Hi to Paula"

"Matt,
I do not know how you can take all that emotion from all those people and still be able find reasons to laugh!  Thank you for being a patient teacher and a well of positive thought for others."
- Michele E.

"yeehaaaa"
- matt

Thoughts re: my birthday

Birthday '05
lots of sadness washing thru me today... not huge, just ready to be felt and released.

lots 'o little things coming up... nothing huge.  things are going really well now. healthy, good friends, lots 'o love around, don't have too many people pissed at me right now (I must not be pushing people's limits enuf!).

But there are so Many things, that even a little sad or afraid about each one can build up to a good cry. Cried 4x today so far (it's 11am).

Rachel remembered - first thing she said, and got a big hug, too.

Paula remembered - first thing she said, too. made breakfast but I hurt her feelings during (yapping about something else) so she's pulled away and not really talking to me now (often the case).

Rachel got a new puppy last month, Buddy. cute as heck. all soft, and beautiful grey with one black eye and black ears. white tipped tail and forehead. perfectly cute. Rachel can sure pick animals... she's 3-0. Spot E. Boy is the coolest dog I've ever met, and Carmel Kittie is the coolest cat ever. She didn't pick Missy, but Missy's sweet, and fun to watch, too. Spot and Carmel are really people-oriented, so for a loner-kinda guy, they're great.

it has to do with my lessons re: Love.

How do I turn my anger into Love re: Buddy ('cause didn't want another dog, esp. a puppy, and Rachel's never home, so guess who 'got him')

can I really TURN one into the other?
I believe I can.
If I change the beliefs, thoughts, attitudes that CREATE the Anger, and ALLOW the love to naturally expand, I AM changing it, consciously, intelligently, completely.

cool.

good day.