Emotional Intelligence 101: Taming the Beast Within!

Improving Character

In attempts to improve your character, know what is in your power and what is beyond it.

- Francis Thompson

The greatest of faults, I should say, is to be conscious of none.

- Thomas Carlyle

"Since God chose you to be the holy people whom He loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience."

~ Colossians 3:12, NLT

Thankfullness

A thankful heart is not only the greatest virtue, but the parent of all the other virtues.

    - Cicero

If the only prayer you said in your whole life was "thank you," that would suffice.

    - Meister Eckhart

 

When you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears.

    - Anthony Robbins

Intimacy and Communication Skills

The 5 Steps to Intimacy as taught at our ND workshop.

1. Appreciate the Importance of Feelings
2. Know / Identify your Feelings
3. Accept your Feelings
4. Express your Feelings in Positive Ways
5. Help Others with their Feelings - Communication and Intimacy

Yes, it's all about ME, but we can get kinda lonely without a WE.
So, WE can learn to change and manage ME, to work out a WE, that works for ME (and SHE or HE).

EQ begets Success!

   From The Business Case for Emotional Intelligence

By: Cary Cherniss     http://www.eiconsortium.org/reports/business_case_for_ei.html

For 515 senior executives analyzed by the search firm Egon Zehnder International, those managers who were primarily strong in emotional intelligence were more likely to succeed than those who were strongest in either relevant previous experience or IQ. In other words, emotional intelligence was a better predictor of success than either relevant previous experience or high IQ (note: EQ > IQ !!). More specifically, the executive was high in emotional intelligence in 74 percent of the successes and only in 24 percent of the failures. The study included executives in Latin America, Germany, and Japan, and the results were almost identical in all three cultures.

Success does not consist in never making mistakes but in trying not to make the same one a second time.

    - George Bernard Shaw, 1856-1950, Irish Playwright

However beautiful the strategy, you should occasionally look at the results.

    - Winston Churchill, 1874-1965, English Politician and Author

It's in your Feelings!

want enlightenment and self-actualiation?  it's in your feelings.
want to find the meaning of life?  it's in your feelings.
want your relationships to work?  it's in your feelings.
want peace, serenity and joy?  it's in your feelings.
want success and financial abundance?  it's in your feelings.
want self-esteem, self-awareness, self-acceptance, and self-mastery?  it's in your feelings.
want to feel brave, powerful, and energetic?  it's in your feelings.
want a more positive outlook on life?  it's in your feelings.
want love?  it's in your feelings.
want to die happy?  it's in your feelings.

Be Honest With Yourself!

"No man, for any considerable period, can wear one face to himself, and another to the multitude, without finally getting bewildered as to which may be true."

 - Nathaniel Hawthorne

"You cannot fake a relationship and feel right with yourself or anyone else. Changing yourself to fit what you think other people want doesn’t work. Pretending to be someone other than yourself only broadens the distance between the person you are and the one with whom you’re trying to establish closeness."

 - Mary Manin Morrissey

"Just as surely as distress must follow self-deceit, healing must follow self-honesty."

 - Vernon Howard

"Don't compromise yourself. You are all you've got."

 - Janis Joplin

Inspired Living

Together, as Americans, let's create the emotional support network to teach the world that EQ > IQ. Will you help?

When you are inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project, all your thoughts break their bonds; your mind transcends limitations, your consciousness expands in every direction, and you find yourself in a new, great and wonderful world.

Dormant forces, faculties and talents become alive and you discover yourself
to be a greater person by far than you ever dreamed yourself to be.

- Patanjali

EQ > IQ !!

that's it!
that's what I want to say to the world...

EQ > IQ !!

High IQ is cool.
High EQ is better.

Feelings are more important than thoughts.
Feelings are us.
Feelings can and will have more effect on our life.
We are our Feelings.

And we can actually Make ourselves Smarter about our feelings...
... that will effect us every second and every minute of every day.

they ain't that difficult or complicated.  (they can seem really Huge, when we don't understand ourselves, and what's happenin' inside us), but in reality, our Feelings are pretty simple, and easy to understand.  There's only about 10 of 'em to master.
They're simple and they can be fun (most things we do are Fun -- in fact, that's the point!)

High IQ is great (if you were lucky enough to be born with it... I wasn't)
but High EQ is better.

High EQ I can do something about.
High EQ makes me Aware... and Alert... and Confident... and Sure.
and THAT's a wonderful feeling!

My EQ keeps me Passionate about life, gets me up in the morning, and late at night.
My EQ brings tons of Love and Joy into my life.
My EQ makes my life worth living.

With High EQ, I can succeed.  without it, I am clueless.
I can Make things happen, and I can Let things happen. 
(and the wisdom to know the difference)

I can be super Strong to push myself, and lead others, and I can be super Soft, and cry, and hold you as you release.

bottom line: I can control me, and I can control my life.

and above all, I can control my Attitude.

"Attitude is Everything"
 - Dr. Phil

so, yes, that's my point.

EQ > IQ.    period.

I would rather be aware than smart.

IQ is about knowing stuff outside of me.
EQ is about knowing Me.

Propaganda

T-shirts for us, not them.

I'd like to make "stuff" - T-shirts, cups, pens, etc - with some cool sayings we have.

• EQ > IQ

• Feelings are Good!
• Guilt is Optional.
• Anger is second. What do you really feel?
• Don't Eat That, find something better.
• It's OK to have Boundaries.
• I am not a Control Freak.
• FEAR is Ok. Keep Going…
• This Too Shall Pass!
• Hang in there.  You're stronger than you think!