Emotional Intelligence 101: Taming the Beast Within!

Emotional Intelligence = Taking Control of your Life!

The difference between great people and everyone else is that great people create their lives actively, while everyone else is created by their lives, passively waiting to see where life takes them next. The difference between the two is the difference between living fully and just existing.

- Michael E. Gerber

The key is a tricky balancing act between making things happen, and letting things happen. Take control of what you can, and let the rest go.

Overcoming Guilt

To learn more about myself and to continue my growth I have found a few sites that speak to my soul on a regular basis.  Today I read an article on "The Importance of Overcoming Guilt" which helped to bring me some new insight.  Some excerpts from the article by Albert, The Urban Monk, are

Guilt is born the moment we know better.  Guilt is created the moment we think back, the moment we see the hurt we have caused.  Hindsight created the lie that we had a choice.  But we didn't.  We always do our best restricted only by our awareness.

Psychologists and Buddhist teachers alike have identified these patterns inside each of us.  They have different names for it, of course, but they all refer to the same thing:  patterns, instincts, old conditionings, beliefs, emotional states, perhaps a wound that is still bleeding.

The possibility of choice only comes with awareness - when these patterns arise, can we recognise them for what they are, instead of getting pulled along by their force?

I do recommend reading the full article.  You can find it at The Urban Monk.

   Suellen

Get out of your own muck and help someone else!

"An individual has not started living until he can rise above the narrow confines of his individualistic concerns to the broader concerns of all humanity."

- Martin Luther King, Jr.

Tired of your own pain and issues? Try reaching out to help someone else!

No matter how bad it is for you, there are always people out there who need help, support, a loving heart, and/or a kind ear to listen and care.

Helping someone almost always works wonders for BOTH of you!

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Create Your World

True brilliance, Matt, is not a function of understanding one's view of the world and finding order, logic, and spirituality in it. True brilliance is understanding that your view of order, logic, and spirituality is what created your world.

And therefore you are forever capable of changing everything.

The Universe

The Bucket List

The Bucket List, starring Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman.

It is bittersweet because these guys are dying of cancer, but it is also comical as they go about fulfilling the items on their list of what they want to accomplish before they "kick the bucket."

The biggest takeaway: Don't wait, or waste, another minute! Make that list, clarify what is important to you, and start living a more fulfilling life.

How's the best way to create your list of what you want to do/accomplish/handle before you go, or any list of ideas, thoughts, reminders or 'aha' moments -- you need a Collection Box for your Brain! (I have one!)

How? read on...

Love is a friendship caught on fire

"Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable."

- Bruce Lee !

Love really is the answer. Whatever the question, Love should be in the answer.

DECIDE to be Happy!

"Most people are about as happy as they make up their mind to be."

- Abraham Lincoln

Decide, now, that you will do whatever it takes, change whatever you need to, face whatever you need to, to be Happy, finally, in this lifetime.

Emotional Intelligence is the key to happiness.

You Gotta Feel It, to Heal It!

"The key is to not resist or rebel against emotions or to try to get around them by devising all sorts of tricks; but to accept them directly, as they are."

- Takahisa Kora

"Instead of resisting any emotion, the best way to dispel it is to enter it fully, embrace it and see through your resistance."

- Deepak Chopra

"We have to become more conscious of our feeling-world. By learning to identify the ‘emotional baggage’ and manage our feeling-world reactions, we can view life based on current information instead of being held captive by our past."

- Doc Childre

"Our feelings are our most genuine paths to knowledge."

- Audre Lorde

People are our Mirror

"The people we are in relationship with are always a mirror, reflecting our own beliefs, and simultaneously we are mirrors reflecting their beliefs. So relationship is one of the most powerful tools for growth... if we look honestly at our relationships we can see so much about how we have created them."

- Shakti Gawain

2008 Priorities

"Getting in touch with our true selves must be our first priority!"

- Tom Hopkins

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We know nothing until we know all the ways that we're not who we should be. Only then do we have a chance at becoming the people we've wanted to be, and God intended us to be, from the day we were born.

– Marianne Williamson, American Spiritual Author and Lecturer (from her new book, "The Age of Miracles")

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"Our lives improve only when we take chances ... and the first and most difficult risk we can take is to be honest with ourselves."

- Walter Anderson