Emotional Intelligence 101: Taming the Beast Within!

Quotes on Anger2

"Any person capable of angering you becomes your master; he can anger you only when you permit yourself to be disturbed by him."

*Epictetus {50-138 Phrygian Philosopher}

"At the core of all anger is a need that is not being fulfilled."

- Marshall B. Rosenberg

"Anger is that powerful internal force that can blow out the light of reason."

- Ralph Waldo Emerson

"Everything is a gift of the universe -- even joy, anger, jealously, frustration, or separateness. Everything is perfect either for our growth or our enjoyment."

- Ken Keyes Jr.

Quotes on Fear

"Everything you want is waiting on the other side of fear."

- Sarah Chappell, M.A.

"If you let your fear of consequence prevent you from following your deepest instinct,

your life will be safe, expedient and thin."

- Katharine Butler Hathaway {American Author}

"COURAGE is resistance to fear, mastery of fear - not absence of fear."

- Mark Twain (1835 - 1910)

Handling Emotions

A Teaching Guide:  Handling Emotions

This site tries to teach teens how to deal with their emotions, peer pressures, respecting others, etc.  They have a dozen or so videos, discussion materials and more.

Their suggestions for handling your emotions:
•  Be honest with yourself.

•  Talk to somebody about your feelings.

•  Don't ignore your emotions, they are telling you something.

•  If you are having an unpleasant feeling, think of something you can do that will help, and then do it.

•  Find positive ways to express anger that are not hurtful to others.

•  Remember, whatever you are feeling, you're not alone.

•  Try not to get overwhelmed, things usually improve.

•  If you do get overwhelmed—ask for help.

GOOD STUFF, read on

http://www.goodcharacter.com/BCBC/Emotions.html
Copyright Elkind+Sweet Communications / Live Wire Media.
Reprinted by permission. Copied from www.GoodCharacter.com.

Quotes on Lack

"Money cannot fill an empty soul."

-- Julia Cameron & Mark Bryan

"Both abundance and lack exist simultaneously in our lives, as parallel realities. It is always our conscious choice which secret garden we will tend... when we choose not to focus on what is missing from our lives but are grateful for the abundance that’s present -- love, health, family, friends, work, the joys of nature and personal pursuits that bring us pleasure -- the wasteland of illusion falls away and we experience Heaven on earth."

-- Sarah Ban Breathnach

eBook on Depression

Here's an eBook on the "7 Steps to a Depression Free Life - A Self-Help Guide".

Gillian says:

"I've had years when I had no serious episodes and times when I've spent weeks on end unable to find a reason to get out of bed.

But now my struggle with depression is over. I've broken the cycle and am living a wonderful life despite being vulnerable to depression."

I haven't read it, but the testimonials sound good.  Let me know if you get it and it works (or doesn't).

http://www.depression-recovery-life.com/ebook.html

Emotional Resources

Wow.

Here's a very elaborate site (actually 5 related sites!) devoted to describing, defining, explaining, listing, and recovering from so many forms of feelings and emotions.

Called "Emotional Feelings".  All written by 1 person -- Kathleen. It starts:

Welcome...

i'm glad to see you! if you've been searching for answers about who you are & what you're feeling, i've been there, am there & hope to always be mindful of what & why i'm feeling things...

i've been in recovery from post traumatic stress disorder, depression & abuse issues for about 3 years....

as part of my recovery & i'd consider this website & the entire network of my websites as being the most important reasons for my success & fulfillment in recovery."

There's a page or more on EACH feeling, alphabetically, starting with:

• abandonment
• absorbed
• abuse
• acceptance
• accomplishment
• accountable
• acknowledged
• admiration
• affection
• affirmed
• afraid

Well done!  See for yourself...

Difference between Feelings & Emotions2

I ran a search on Google Answers for the difference between Feelings & Emotions, and got quite an assortment of interesting answers... from doctors, therapists, philosophers, columnists and others.

example:
“Emotions are cross cultural – the same all over the world. Feelings are a subset of all of our mind-body states (disappointment, hunger, hope, etc. There are hundreds of them!). Feelings are a learned response in the culture in which you grow up (the family, the peers, the community, etc.)”

Good reading...

Dealing with Grief3

Grief and the holidays: Coping on your own terms

"For most people, the holidays are a time of joy and celebration with family and friends. But for those who've experienced the loss of a loved one, it can be a lonely and depressing time."

Read this informative article from the Mayo Clinic - good, practical advice.

Men and Tears

"...a University of Warwick historian researching the expression of male emotion through tears reveals there is a long history of men and crying, and that tears were for centuries a class issue.

New research reveals that while the phenomenon of crying men is hardly new, for tears to be acceptable in Early Modern England they had to be the right sort of tears, shed for the right reason."

and

"The acceptability of men shedding tears was class related. Contemporaries accepted that working men had little emotional control, but gentlemen were expected to govern their feelings."

Read on...

Matt says:
"Let 'em flow, no matter what 'class' you are in!  If not in public, then please allow yourself to cry in private."

Doc says:
"The strongest man I know is the one strong enough to let himself cry and feel."

Dealing with Grief2

I was just directed to a wonderful site for those dealing with grief and loss.

"Offering help, hope and healing."
http://www.griefjourney.com/

Specifically, here's a movie that might bring some comfort over the holiday season.
http://www.griefjourney.com/holidays_h.htm

Check it out.

"While we must never minimize the pain and the difficulty of grief, we need to hold on to hope that someday the pain will subside, and live will have meaning again."
- Dr. Bill Webster, host, GriefJourney.com