Emotional Intelligence 101: Taming the Beast Within!

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Do yourself a favor and at least TRY, no Get Started, to resolve stuff from your past. Take a good, honest, feeling-filled look into your past and see what you find there.

"Be not the slave of your own past -
plunge into the sublime seas,
dive deep and swim far -
so you shall come back with self-respect,
with new power,
with an advanced experience,
that shall explain
and overlook the old."

- Ralph Waldo Emerson

If you've never delved into your Past and what made you who you are today, and you think you don't need to...

You're Wrong!

Find a way.

What's Wrapped Around Your Heart?

How do you keep your past relationships wrapped around your heart?

Make a list of old loves, what was cool about them (what attracted you to them), what happened (in a word or two), what you learned from that experience and then see how you feel toward each one now. Is there any residual hurt, or anger, or hanging on?!?

My guess is that you might have some cleanup work to do.

My daughter (who doesn't really like to cry) taught me that, if you start crying, think of all the things you're sad about, so you get a lot of crying done all at one time. Try it.

my best to you.
- Matt

The World is Ready

I believe the world is ready to FEEL.

I think folks are hurtin', and Angry, and disappointed, and STRESSED, and Depressed.

I believe the world is ready to change... for the better.

I believe that teaching the world how to FEEL will make a simple, yet incredibly PROFOUND difference on our daily lives. The lessons are simple, straight-forward, distinct and for the most part, FREE of charge!

I believe (and have seen it happen a few thousand times) that if people get rid of their Negative feelings, by feeling them and letting them go, that they'll return to their NATURAL state of Loving, Hugging and Getting Along.

We are the most powerful people ever: most aware, closer to being Self-Actualized, most comfortable (physically).

Now if we can just get our Emotional lives as cool as they can be:
- Positive Attitudes
- Beliefs based on conscious experience, not reacting to decisions made by our inner children
- Awareness of ourselves, and others
- Creating Safe places, wherever we go
- Control over which feeling to feel, at what intensity, for how long, in a safe and productive way
- Having the Power and Courage to SHOW UP and FEEL
- Have compassion and understanding (again, for ourselves and others)

... we could be downright HAPPY, as a people.

Won't that be something.

I'm so excited about the possibilities!

- Let's Do It!
--- Get 'R Done!
----- Whatever it Takes.

ready? You don't have to know how. You don't even have to know why. All you need is the awareness that you don't know everything there is to know about your Feelings and Emotions, the willingness to explore and experience 'em, and a bit of Courage (in fact, we can even help with that!).

Call me.
- Matt
(916) 599-8597

From Bleeding to Healing

If you're really Angry and hurt, you gotta get that OUT of your SYSTEM. Somehow.

Trust me, it's coming out anyway… but probably not in ways that work for you, or those around you.

like blasting your family or folks at work, or even your friends.
guys become a-holes, women become b_'s

you're unhappy. you're unfulfilled. you're Frustrated. you've friggin' Angry Aaaahhhhhh !!!

you can feel it boiling, sometimes
you can spit nails
you face is all hot and your blood's pumping hard.
you're body is just ready to explode, but... How? Where? When? At Whom?!?

you're Angry.

That's all.

You're Ok!
It happens.
It happens to the best of us!

You are Ok... but you gotta learn what to do with it all.

Identify, separate, allow, manage, direct, explore, experience, release, relieve, breathe!

Learn ways to Be Aware of What You Feel
Learn what to DO with all those Feelings
Learn to identify, allow and release Feelings.

You will feel better.

Everything will feel better.
Life will be better.
I guarantee it.

You will be "in control" of your feelings and your Life.

Let's Join Forces!

Hire me to stand beside you
To support you
To encourage you
To boost you up
and cheer for you!
to stand beside you when you weep.
to be that loving voice you need now and then.

Feeling stuck?
Not reaching your potential>?
Repeating unsuccessful patterns?
Not living the life you want to live?

As a Coach, I become your emotional partner, your guide, your friend.
When it's time to Celebrate, I'll be there!
When things get tough, I'll be there.

Let's do it together.

- Matt Perelstein
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Know Yourself2

"He who knows others is learned.
He who knows himself is wise."

- Lao Tse

My wonderful Ride!

... newly washed in the morning sunup.

Tho' she's been taking a beating lately, she's still a Fine-looking car that I am most proud to own!

... and with over 68,000 of many tough miles, she purrs like a kitten... with the SuperCharger, she's sounds reeeeaaall nice.

Thanks for helping remind me to appreciate what I have.

- Matt

"He who angers you controls you."

On the highway yesterday I saw a sign on the front yard of a church which read:

"He who angers you controls you."

Thought I'd pass that along...

- Kimberly Parry, coach

2 Different Kinds of Guilt

Punishing Guilt vs. Productive Guilt

There are 2 types of Guilt.

One is a powerful, punishing, shame-on-you Guilt. It's designed to make you feel:
- Bad
- Down
- Less than
- Stupid
- Shameful
- etc.

The other kind of Guilt is an equally powerful, what I call "Productive Guilt".

This is the kind of guilt that is meant to:
- Teach you a Lesson
- Be Easy to Remember (even if it hurts)
- Pushes your Limits
- Can be Uplifting and Encouraging (even tho it may have started from something you did wrong)
- Gives you a break, a 2nd chance.

"When we feel Guilty, we will set ourselves up to be Punished."
- Doc Downing, Ph.D, LMFT

If you're able to stay in a Productive mode about your guilt, it is imperative that when you Learn your lesson, and you're absolutely sure you will never do that stupid thing again, ever, then you MUST LET GO OF THE GUILT! Hanging on to it is no longer Productive... it's counter-productive and will hold you back.

If you're dealing with Punishing Guilt, what's the best way to punish yourself?!? Do the same stupid behavior again!

Punishing Guilt tears you down.
Productive Guilt teaches you and builds you up.

Take Control of Your Guilt!

- matt

Strive to be so strong...

"Strive to be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.

To be too wise for worry,
too tolerant for hate, and
too courageous to be fearful.

In short, be Happy."

- Unknown Source